Deep within us lies a "voice" our own voice, which has been created based on our past experiences, even the experiences we think we have forgotten about, or we don't think about on a daily basis are buried deep within us. This inner voice that constantly speaks within you will be repeating those original events and messages to you daily.
If you have spent time building your confidence your inner voice will have very little control over you, it will be positive and reassuring the majority of the time, and you will be able to dismiss any negative messages. For people with low self esteem your inner voice will be your own worst enemy, your saboteur and critic, constantly belittling your efforts, punishing your mistakes and criticizing.
Do you ever find yourself berating yourself for something that you've done? Have you ever found yourself struggling with something that you know you should do but keep talking yourself out of? That's your inner voice.
If you are struggling with doing what you really want to in life check out what your inner voice is saying to you. Maybe it's letting you know that there is no way you can achieve something. Is it telling you not to take the risk of starting your own business because you will fail?
If you are looking to start your own business, or to build a successful business then you will need to get your inner voice on your side, otherwise you will give up too soon, or not believe in yourself enough to go for new business.
The best way to change the messages that your inner voice is throwing at you is to find things you have accomplished, no matter how small, almost as a counter argument. Yes but.... You can tell it, and then remind yourself of that achievement of yours.
Ultimately, this is your voice, it's in your head, so you have complete control over it and that's the thing you need to remember. It's time to take back control of your inner voice. It's time to talk back to your inner voice in whatever way works for you, this is the way to combat it and let it know who is really in charge, YOU!
The first step is to recognize the different messages your inner voice will be saying to you, does it tend to be unfairly harsh and say things like
"Everyone said they loved your business presentation but you forgot most of it and hesitated quite a bit when you were asked questions. You really shouldn't be running your own business, you are just not that great at it"
Just thank your inner voice for sharing its opinion and suggest a positive statement like
"Wow! I did really well in that presentation today and even though there were bits I missed out they had no clue what I was going to say so they never even noticed. I was a little hesitant over the questions but next time I get asked questions like that I will instantly know what to do. Great job!"
If your inner voice is a dramatic generalizing voice that tends to exaggerate :
"There's no way you could EVER run your own network marketing business because NO ONE will want to listen to anything you have to say. Face it; you will NEVER be good enough to run a business"
Get specific with it to put it in its place:
"Okay so I don't know that many people but that doesn't matter, I know that I will be great at this business because I am great at talking to people. All I need to do is to out and meet people and I can make this work"
If you want to get into running your own business your inner voice will be your biggest fan or your greatest enemy so mastering what it says and how you react to what it says is vitally important.
Begin to recognize what your inner voice is saying and why, counteract whatever it tells you that is negative with a positive statement or promise. Many times whatever it is saying is simply not true, so find why you might want to say that about yourself and what you may be protecting yourself from.
Using positive statements and self-talk will support you in improving your self-esteem, and when used consistently, and repeated often you will train your unconscious mind to change what you believe about yourself.
Give yourself time to really immerse yourself in positive statements and to make them a natural part of your life. This is a journey, not a quick fix and you will need the patience to keep affirming yourself when your inner voice decides to do otherwise.
If being successful in business is something you really want for yourself then I really recommend you take this seriously. Whilst there are many things that will make your business a success or failure, your own mindset is the key that will decide in moments of challenge whether you will succeed or give up. |
